WHEN WILL I GET PREGNANT?
This question is one that every couple trying to conceive asks often. When will that day be? Well before I answer that question, there is one question that is more important and whose answer will lead directly to the answer of the question above. That important question is “WHAT IS STOPPING YOU FROM GETTING PREGNANT?!” I want you to ask yourself that question right now if you are still waiting to conceive. So say “what is stopping ME from getting pregnant?”
Do you know the answer to that question? Have you taken time to discover what it is? Can you state what you think, or what you have discovered is the reason why you are not pregnant yet?
OK, we will continue because of time.
Before I answer when pregnancy will occur(I do know the answer, don’t be afraid😁😉), I want to address the reasons why pregnancy may not be taking place especially for those who do not know.
➡️ MEDICAL REASONS: There are so many medical reasons why a couple may fail to fall pregnant. Amongst them are:
• Problems with the sperm ranging from azoospermia (zero sperm count), to oligospermia (low sperm count), to unhealthy sperm resulting from poor sperm cell morphology, viability or motility.
• Problems with sperm delivery as seen in retrograde ejaculation, erectile dysfunction, etc
• Problems with ovulation (release of eggs) in the woman as seen in hormonal imbalance or problems of the ovary like pcos.
• Problems with fertilization of eggs or implantation as seen in tubal blockage, hormonal deficits.
• Problems with the womb where the fertilized egg should find a place to grow as in fibroids, adenomas, synechia, endometrial diseases, etc.
➡️ SOCIAL REASONS:
These are problems arising from a person’s lifestyle that may be impacting negatively on the ability to conceive. Here, the social factors implicated include
• Chemical and Radiation exposure
• Poor Stress Management
• Deficiency in essential Vitamins and Minerals
• Ignorance of how your body functions causing a couple not having intercourse at the right time for pregnancy to occur.
➡️ PSYCHOLOGICAL REASONS:
Psychological involvement in infertility is usually a secondary effect arising from a primary problem. Infertility arising from these conditions is called Idiopathic Infertility(exact cause is unknown) both in men and women. Such psychological disorders include stress, depression, sleep and eating disorders, addictions. These psychological disorders modify the endocrine glands(which produce sex hormones and gonads i.e sex cells)as well as the immune system functions in tissues and cells of the reproductive system thereby affecting fertility functions.
➡️ SPIRITUAL REASONS:
Sometimes, the spiritual is implicated in fertility problems. While I do not want to dwell on this as it is not my area of specialty, I also do not consider it implausible. Spiritual involvement in my opinion and from my knowledge and experience, will give some spiritual symptoms just like physical ailments give physical ailments. One might have some strange experiences or dreams or premonition that will be suggestive of something spiritual. This can be further explored.
ONCE A COUPLE REALIZES THAT THEY HAVE AN INFERTILITY CHALLENGE (WHICH SHOULD BE AFTER ONE YEAR OF TRYING), THEY SHOULD SEEK THE CAUSE FROM PROFESSIONALS, EITHER FERTILITY COUNSELORS AS FOUND AT L.O.V.E. FOUNDATION, OR A MEDICAL DOCTOR WHO MAY OR MAY NOT REFER YOU TO A GYNAECOLOGIST OR FERTILITY SPECIALIST
Ok. Now that we know the possible reasons why pregnancy may not occur, we can now answer when pregnancy will.
Once one identifies the reason(s) why they are yet to fall pregnant, they can start working on those problems to solve them. Every problem we have listed above has a solution or alternative. Doing all you can to discover the problem(s) from the correct source(s) and going ahead to correct them puts the body step by step in a position to conceive.
Once the obstacles preventing pregnancy are removed and every aspect of the body is in sync with the pregnancy process, AT THAT TIME, pregnancy will occur. The exact day or month or year remains a mystery to any human being, that information is only available to God. We will jeopardize the pregnancy process when we fixate to date and month when it happens. It is your duty to ensure that you are doing all that you need to do EVERYDAY to allow for pregnancy to tale place. This is what you have control over. Once you set your mind and body on the right part for conception, leave the timing to God. If you sincerely feel you are doing everything right and pregnancy does not occur after 3-4months, do a review with your doctor to be sure you are on the right path.
We get it all wrong when we allow worry and anxiety to set in because we expect pregnancy to occur at a certain month or the other. This worry and anxiety can grow to become depression which we have seen has negative effects on the Fertility so we inadvertently prevent ourselves from getting pregnant by those emotions.
Am I saying you should feel nothing when faced with the disappointment of another menstrual flow? No. However, you can quickly rise above that feeling knowing that it will worsen the situation. Anytime pregnancy does not happen even after you have done all you know to do, take it that something is not yet right. If you have spent years trying without success, think about the other alternatives and talk with a Fertility counselor for guidance.
Luckily we have treated most of the causes of infertility as topics here on the blog. Check out the blog page to see some of the topics we have treated previously👍🏼
This brings us to the end of this lecture. As always, there is room for questions and contributions in the comments section. Keep them coming. We will attend to them all🙂